Not having a significant other on Valentine’s Day sucks. The older I get, the more it sucks. I am not stating this to get attention. I am not stating this to get sympathy. I am stating this because I know there are a lot of people out there who can relate. I am always happy for others who are happy. When I have the opportunity to see people who are loving life, it puts a smile on my face. When I see couples holding hands, showing each other affection, my heart smiles. But the reality for me, and I know the reality for a lot of others out there, is the fact that life can be very lonely. Even when we are surrounded by others, even when we have deep, connected fellowship with other humans, such as friends, family, co-workers etc., the truth is, there is nothing that can replace the fulfillment, love, joy, and security of a significant other. There is nothing more beautiful then loving and being loved, deeply, intimately, and securely by a significant other. If you find yourself alone today in the midst of those you are surrounded by, if you find yourself yearning for the beauty of a life shared with a significant other, if you find yourself frustrated today, let me encourage you with this…….Life unfolds as life unfolds. Use this season of life you are in right now to refine yourself, improve yourself, and prepare yourself for the time when your significant other appears. Be the best version of yourself today, tomorrow, and in all the days to come. Continue to be a leader. An example. Someone to follow. Continue to serve. Continue to learn. Continue to love. Continue to be someone that someone else would want to be with. No matter what you are feeling today, no matter how overwhelming your emotions may be today, today is a gift, today is an opportunity, and today is beautiful. Open your heart, and allow your light to shine.
Please and thank you. Simple words. Powerful words. Kind words. Words of manner. Words that seem to have been lost. When I was growing up, I was instructed to use my manners. I was instructed to say please, to say thank you. Today, I rarely hear anyone, young or old, use please and thank you. Why? As a teacher, I am appalled at how often I don’t hear my students using please and thank you in their speech. Sometimes, I am blown away when a student of mine doesn’t even know what using your manners means. I believe the loss of these words, please and thank you, are a direct reflection on the entitled culture we live in. It is also a direct reflection of the arrogant culture we live in. So many people, young and old, have this idea that they have it all together, and have it all figured out. They get what they want, when they want, how they want. Using your manners, please and thank you specifically, is an indication of humility, kindness, and respect. When someone is entitled, arrogant, and disrespectful, their speech will reflect this. Even though I grew up learning to use my manners, I am far from perfect. At times in my life, I have failed to use my manners to the fullest. At times in my life, I have been the entitled, arrogant, and disrespectful individual. But now as an adult, a teacher, and having the burning desire deep with my soul to be someone to follow, I have been focusing lately on using my manners, please and thank you as much as possible. I find using my manners especially valuable when interacting, speaking, and asking my student to do or not to do something. I am finding when my speech is full of please and thank you, I have greater self-control and a stronger hold on my emotions. These are very important when you are a teacher, parent, or coach. Please and thank you. There is always room for improvement, growth, and maturity, no matter your educational background, age, or financial status. Let’s stay focused on the little things. The simple things. Let’s start small. Let’s start with our words. Let’s start with please and thank you. Let’s see where this will take us.
Amy is a well-rounded individual. She not only has her Master’s degree in counseling, she also is an XPT certified trainer, wellness coach, and owner of True Core Health. Amy is a wealth of knowledge. Her and I cover a variety of topics in our conversation, but we focus mainly on her counseling practice. We cover counseling topics such as anxiety, body image, and the importance of knowing that you are worthy. Amy and I met up in Denver, CO at Just BE Kitchen. Our conversation takes place outside, on the back patio of Just BE, it was a bit windy and chilly that day, so be mindful of that as you listen. You may also hear a few side conversations or side laughter during our chat, there were other customers on the patio with us:) Thank you Just BE Kitchen for allowing us to record the podcast at your beautiful location!
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Peter Maksimow is a sponsored athlete. He has run for team USA. Peter’s forte is mountain and trail running. In our conversation, we cover Peter’s struggle through recovery from an injury, his love for traveling, and a lot of other fun, interesting, and challenging topics.
It’s ok to admit that you are wrong. It’s ok to admit when you don’t know. It’s ok to admit when you mess up, make a mistake, or say something you shouldn’t have. We are all wrong at times. None of us knows absolutely everything. We all mess up, make mistakes, and say things we shouldn’t. All of us are imperfect beings. The troubling thing is though, many people don’t admit when they are wrong. They don’t recognize their lack of knowledge or understanding in areas in which they speak of or on. They don’t admit their mess ups, mistakes, or careless words. Our world is inundated with so many attention whores. People who are addicted to themselves, addicted to their ego, addicted to the reactions and responses they get from others when they say or do ridiculous things. We have a world where people say and do what they want with no repercussions nor consequences. There is little to no accountability. The result of these aforementioned addictions, along with the lack of accountability, is arrogance, self-centeredness, and reckless behavior. I have been around these people who cannot admit they are wrong. Their pride is so strong, they are so self-consumed, they cannot bring themselves to admit their shortcomings. They are blind to their wrong. They cannot see past their ego. We need humility. We need accountability. We need personal accountability. We need discomfort. We need to be tested. Without these, we become inflated. We become content. We become comfortable with our B.S. We only surround ourselves with people, who like us, who are addiction whores as we are. We become a wasted reality. A wasted breath. A wasted, unusable vessel. You are wrong. I am wrong. We are WRONG! We have so much to learn. There is so much to learn! We have so much growth ahead. So many opportunities to try, fail, try again, learn, fail, and continue on. There are so many opportunities for you and me that await. We need to let go of ourselves. Give up ourselves. We need to realize the world is waiting for us to overcome ourselves, so that we can be of service to others. The world is ours for the taking. Don’t be the one who ends up taken by the world. YOU. ARE. WRONG.
Remove yourself from your feelings and emotions. Step outside of yourself in order to think, see, and hear clearly. Too often, we are lost in ourselves. Lost in our feelings, emotions, anxieties, fears, and sorrows. Too often, we can’t get past the inner self, in order to accomplish the tasks to reach our full potential. We need to detach. We need to learn to detach. We need to learn to let go. We need to understand that mistakes, mishaps, and failure are all a part of the life process. Never to be avoided, but mistakes, mishaps, and failure should be expected, accepted, and learned from. You are not perfect. You will never be perfect in this life. Perfection and the pursuit of, is myth. Unattainable. Do not strive for perfection. Rather, strive for growth. Strive for maturity. Strive to become a better you, TODAY!
This is what is inside of me right now. Deep within. Deep within my soul, my spirit, my inner man. It’s brewing. It’s burning. It’s been brewing. It’s been burning. I can’t ignore it. I don’t want to ignore it. I know it is who I am. I know it is what I am. I know this is how I am to live my life. I know this is the path I am to take. I have to wait patiently. I have to wait for the right time. I have to allow life to unfold. The burning inside of me is to live as lowly, simply, and minimally as possible. To physically train as a man possessed. And finally, to help in whatever capacity possible, hurting, Fatherless youth. This is it. This is what is inside of me. The fire burning so intensely.