Up ahead the road turns. Where does it turn to? That, I do not know. All I know is that I have to continue down this road. This is the road I have chosen to take. This is the less-traveled road. The road that most choose not to take. The exact reason I chose this specific road. I don’t want to travel down the road taken by most. I don’t want a road that is well lit, well marked, well worn. I want a road that is dark. A road unmarked, hardly traveled, full of potholes and speed bumps. I want a road that is unknown. Unfamiliar. Off the main drag. Wherever this road turns up ahead, it doesn’t matter to me. It is not about the end destination. For me, this road I am traveling down is about the process of learning along the way. When I don’t know exactly where I am going, when I don’t know exactly how I am going to get where I think I want to go, this challenges me. This tests me. This stretches me. This forces me to learn. This forces me to adjust. This forces me to rethink. This forces me to examine, ponder, question. This forces me to grow, mature, and let go of myself. I am thankful for this road. This road that I have chosen. No, this road isn’t for everyone. No, this road isn’t the easy way. And no, this road isn’t always enjoyable, but this road gives me peace, satisfaction, and at the end of each day, when it’s time to rest, traveling down this road is exactly the road I know I am suppose to be on. The road less-traveled. The difficult road. The uncomfortable road. The road unlike any other.
My fears want to hold me back. My anxiety wants to hold me back. My mind wants to hold me back. I want to give in. I want to let up. I want to be normal. But I can’t. And I won’t. I have to keep going. I have to press on. I have to live each day fully. I have to be a good steward of what has been given to me. I have to be an example, one to follow. A leader. A role model. I have to test myself. Challenge myself. Allow myself to experience uncomfortable. I have to overcome. Overcome the fears, the anxiety, the wandering mind. I have to overcome the pull to be satisfied, content, and complacent. I have to encourage and teach others. I have to practice what I preach.
It’s not about me. Not even a little bit. I wasn’t put on this earth to serve myself. I wasn’t put on this earth to create a better life for me. Yes, I firmly believe it is crucial we take care of ourselves, our mind, our body, and our spirit. This will only allow us to serve others in a greater capacity. But at the end of the day, your life isn’t about you. This life isn’t about you. This world doesn’t revolve around you, sorry. Honestly, there are very few people who actually care one iota about you. There are very few people in this world who know your name, who know your interests, who know ANYTHING about you. In the grand scheme of things, you are nothing. So why do you think you are something? Why are you so caught up in yourself? Why are you so arrogant? Selfish? Self-centered? Your life is but a vapor, here today, gone tomorrow. That is truth. This is reality. This life is NOT about you. This life is about others. Your life should be about others. We were made for community. We were created for others. To serve others. To help others. To protect others. To love others. As human beings, we need each other. We need interaction, communication, fellowship with one another. Get over yourself. Get rid of yourself. Let go of your arrogance. Let go of your pride. Let go of your ignorance. Humble yourself. Open up yours eyes, open up your ears, open up your heart, that you may learn, grow, mature, share, teach, and serve others. Step into your purpose. Step into your destiny. Become the individual you were created to become.
Why do you want to try to be like someone else? I found myself often in my youth trying to be like someone else. I would try to dress, talk, and act like other people. For one reason or another, I would want to be someone different from who I was. I attribute a lot of this to the ignorance of my youth. As young people, we are so impressionable, we are so influenced by those around us, by our peers, teachers, coaches, actors, professional athletes, etc. We soak in so much of our surroundings. As youth, we are trying to find our identity. Trying to figure out where we belong, who we are, how the world works. I get that. But what about now? What about today? As adults, why so often, do we try to be someone we are not? Why are we still trying to be like other people? Why are we not comfortable being who we are? Why are we not comfortable, confident, in our uniqueness, our beauty, our individuality, our strengths, our weaknesses? Why do we try to hide ourselves? Why do we try to ignore who we are, cover up who we are, pretend we are something or someone else? I see adults constantly putting on a front. They are hiding behind someone else. They try to talk like someone else. They try to act like someone else. They are simply, not themselves. To be frank, it’s weird. It’s awkward. And honestly, it’s sad. Adults trying to be another adult. Adults so insecure in themselves, they hide themselves behind another flawed adult. We have to realize all of us are flawed. We all have issues. We all have problems. I don’t care who you are, where you live, what your profession is, how much money is in your bank account, what type of degrees you have, so on and so forth, at the end of the day, all humans are one in the same. We came from the dust, and we will return to the dust. On a human level, no one is above anyone else. So, why hide? Why hide behind another flawed, messed up, imperfect human being? Why hide who you are and what you have to offer the world? Just like everyone else, you have gifts, talents, abilities, and a voice. You count. You are a part of the game of life, just as much as anyone else. You matter. You are important. What you have to offer, is important, it is valuable. We need you to be you. We need you to be who God created you to be. There is only one of you. Just as there is only one of me. If we hide behind someone else, we are wasting our lives, we are wasting our opportunities. The world doesn’t need a copy of someone else, the world needs you, the world needs me. Just as we are. Flaws and all.
Motivation is fickle. Motivation comes and goes. Motivation is based off of feelings, emotions, and other factors that are unreliable, unstable, inconsistent. Motivation generally comes through external pressures or prodding. Some days we may be motivated, some days not. If we rely on motivation, we will not reach our full potential. I want my students to reach their full potential. I want them to become the best version of themselves. I want them to chase after, and catch their goals, aspirations, and dreams. I want my students to live life fully. I want my students to take what they learn in my PE classroom and apply it to their lives daily, that they would become healthier, stronger, and better. So if motivation is not the answer, what is? The answer for me is discipline. Discipline is not based off of feelings, emotions, or external factors. Discipline is based off internal drive. Internal fortitude. Internal focus. Discipline is doing what you know you need to do even though you don’t want to, or don’t feel like doing it. Discipline is much more powerful than motivation. Discipline will take my students much further in life than motivation. How can I instill this discipline to my students? How can I teach students discipline? First and always, I personally need to be a model of discipline. I need to be the example, the leader in physical fitness and living a healthy life. I need to practice what I preach. Young people can see right through hypocrisy. Young people know when you are real or when you are fake. Discipline is something that you model, you eat, sleep, train, and live. If I set the example, I KNOW my students will follow. Secondly, discipline can be taught through action. As I educate my students in regards to health and physical fitness, we then practice these lessons through physical movement. As students realize the positive benefits of physical movement, they will begin to want the movement to be a part of their lives. As they adopt the physical movement into their lives, this will create discipline in their lives as well. They will exercise when they don’t feel like it, or don’t want to. They know the benefits of exercise intellectually, but they will also learn the benefits of exercise through experiences.
Discipline is the answer. I don’t want to teach students to be motivated. I want to teach students to be disciplined. Discipline creates opportunity. Discipline creates freedom. Discipline creates stronger individuals, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and educationally. When motivation wavers, it is discipline that holds strong. It is discipline that will prevail. Discipline is the key to success. Discipline is the key that unlocks the door to our full potential.
I get to write my story. You get to write your story. What an amazing opportunity! What an amazing gift! Each day that we get the opportunity to live and breathe on this earth, is an opportunity for us to become who we want to become. We get to choose the narrative of our story. We get to live the story we want to live. We get to choose who we are, and who we will become. We have been given the gift of choice. The gift of free-will. We have been given the great responsibility to be the author of our own book, our own story. No one can force you to write. No one can write your story for you. There is not another author for YOUR story. Your story, is YOUR story. You are the author. You decide how your story will unfold. You decide the content contained within your story.
I am generally not a fan of business books or self-help type books. I definitely never seek these type of books out and am never really interested in reading them for that matter. So, for me to have ever thought about reading a book under these headings, the book would have had to of been something someone lent me, or gave me for free. That is the case with Die Empty. A co-worker lent the book to me. I will have to admit, the book sat for a long period of time before I really began to dig into it. And the only reason I began digging into Die Empty, was the fact that I had no other book to read at the time as I waited to get to the half-price book store in another state a few days down the road. I say all of this to say, I was VERY surprised and blown away with how much I enjoyed Todd Henry’s “Die Empty.” This book really adds value to the reader’s life. It is more than a business book, more than a self-help book. I would consider Die Empty a thought-provoking, thought-challenging, life-challenging book. Todd does a great job of getting into the nitty-gritty of what it takes to live a fulfilling and satisfying life. He does a great job of using successful people from all walks of life as examples, and starts each chapter off with a quote that sets the table for what is to come thereafter. I think Die Empty would be a great read for anyone at any age. From a tween to an established entrepreneur. Die Empty offers valuable, challenging content for anyone and everyone. Chapter 6 is titled: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone. ANYONE who understands the power of getting uncomfortable has my ear and instant respect! Thank you Todd for writing this book, and adding value to this world! Keep up the great work!
Die Empty Rating: 5/5