Not having a significant other on Valentine’s Day sucks. The older I get, the more it sucks. I am not stating this to get attention. I am not stating this to get sympathy. I am stating this because I know there are a lot of people out there who can relate. I am always happy for others who are happy. When I have the opportunity to see people who are loving life, it puts a smile on my face. When I see couples holding hands, showing each other affection, my heart smiles. But the reality for me, and I know the reality for a lot of others out there, is the fact that life can be very lonely. Even when we are surrounded by others, even when we have deep, connected fellowship with other humans, such as friends, family, co-workers etc., the truth is, there is nothing that can replace the fulfillment, love, joy, and security of a significant other. There is nothing more beautiful then loving and being loved, deeply, intimately, and securely by a significant other. If you find yourself alone today in the midst of those you are surrounded by, if you find yourself yearning for the beauty of a life shared with a significant other, if you find yourself frustrated today, let me encourage you with this…….Life unfolds as life unfolds. Use this season of life you are in right now to refine yourself, improve yourself, and prepare yourself for the time when your significant other appears. Be the best version of yourself today, tomorrow, and in all the days to come. Continue to be a leader. An example. Someone to follow. Continue to serve. Continue to learn. Continue to love. Continue to be someone that someone else would want to be with. No matter what you are feeling today, no matter how overwhelming your emotions may be today, today is a gift, today is an opportunity, and today is beautiful. Open your heart, and allow your light to shine.
You never know the impact you may have on the life of a child. A rightly spoken word or a timely action, could literally, alter a child’s life. As we shift from adolescent to adult, as the years go by, most of us tend to lose the innocence, the beauty, and the purity of childhood. We tend to lose sight of the most important things, the most valuable things in life. A lot of us, lose sight of reality, the older we get. We forget childhood. We forget innocence. We forget the beauty. We forget the purity, of youth. We forget the dreams of yesteryear. We become negative, hurried, busied, stressed, and frustrated adults. People who live life going through the motions, because that’s what we “have” to do. Take a step back with me. Take a look back with me. Remember. Reflect. Step back to your younger years. Look back to who you were. Remember the excitement, the anticipation, the joy, of a life as a child. Reflect on your childhood dreams. So innocent. So beautiful. So pure. AMAZING. You are still that child. The innocence, beauty, and purity still exist, no matter what you have gone through, no matter how hurt you have been, no matter what you have suffered. You are still a child. There is still excitement. Still anticipation. There is still joy deep within your soul. Your dreams are still available. Attainable. You never know, until you try. You never know, until you take that step of faith. You never know, who you could be. You never know, how much you matter to the children around you. YOU MATTER. God has bestowed gifts, talents, and abilities to you. You are loved! The kids, the youth, the children in your life, they want you. They need you. They are starving for your love, affection, and attention. YOU MATTER. THEY MATTER. Let love flow. Let kindness flow. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Accessible. Real. Allow yourself to dream, once again. Allow yourself to feel, once again. Allow yourself to matter, once again. Allow yourself to be a child, once again. Extend your hand to the hurting. The hurting child, children, in your life. Be a servant. A servant to the least of these. Boldly. Relentlessly. Fearlessly. Allow your life to be transformed by a child. Allow your life to transform a child. Be strong. Be open. Be an example. Be someone to follow. Today, tomorrow, and until you have breathed your last. Live life fully. Live life for the children. For the next generation. Be the reason. The reason a child has hope for a brighter tomorrow. You never know…….
Remove yourself from your feelings and emotions. Step outside of yourself in order to think, see, and hear clearly. Too often, we are lost in ourselves. Lost in our feelings, emotions, anxieties, fears, and sorrows. Too often, we can’t get past the inner self, in order to accomplish the tasks to reach our full potential. We need to detach. We need to learn to detach. We need to learn to let go. We need to understand that mistakes, mishaps, and failure are all a part of the life process. Never to be avoided, but mistakes, mishaps, and failure should be expected, accepted, and learned from. You are not perfect. You will never be perfect in this life. Perfection and the pursuit of, is myth. Unattainable. Do not strive for perfection. Rather, strive for growth. Strive for maturity. Strive to become a better you, TODAY!
When you follow the crowd, you die by the crowd. Is it important to have connection with others? I believe so. We need connection. We need interaction with others. We need community. But, we also need to be cautious. We need to be aware. We need to know who we are as an individual. Otherwise, we easily get sucked into other people’s thoughts, beliefs, and stupidity. We get sucked into the ease, the comfort of just following. We get lost in the crowd. We then, lose sight of who we are, who we are to be, and who we are to become. We have no individual identity. No foundation. No direction. Lost in the crowd, we end up wasting a life. Our life. We eventually end up dead in the crowd of the average. Our memory is swept away. RESIST THE PULL, INTO THE CROWD.
Listen. Learn. Love. Live. This life is meant to be lived. Fully. Passionately. Extremely. We only have one opportunity, one shot at this life. In order to live a full life, one must embrace the need to listen. Learning to listen, knowing how to listen, is the key that unlocks the door to a full, passionate, and extreme life that is worth living. When you listen, you provide yourself with the opportunity to learn. When you learn, when you begin to learn, and continue to learn, you understand, love, is the greatest lesson. Love is the greatest gain. Love is the greatest gift one can give, and receive. Love never fails. You listen. You learn. You begin to love. You truly, begin to live. Fully. Passionately. Extremely, a life worth living.
I want to live in a routine. I naturally want to live a life of comfort. Knowing always what is next. My mind wants routine. My mind fights to remain comfortable. The natural mind will do everything in its power to protect you, protect itself. To preserve. The natural mind will lead you astray. The natural mind will lead you to a dead-end. The natural mind will eventually destroy you. You control your mind. You fight your mind. If so, you WILL win.
What do I need, not, what do I want. What do others need, not, what do they want. This is all the difference. You live for needs, not wants. You live a life of delayed-gratification. You put the needs of others ahead of your own, sometimes, not all the time. You learn the art and beauty of self-discipline. You grow, mature, and become better. Doors of opportunity open. You are prepared, ready to walk through these doors, the open doors. You walk through, life unfolds, happenings occur. As it will, as it should. You are stepping into your calling, your destiny, the dreams planted deep within. You are becoming the individual you were created to become.