You Are Beautiful

The darkness will close in. The pain will come. The emptiness, loneliness, and hopelessness will arise. You will be engulfed, overwhelmed with feelings and emotions. You will question, you will wonder why? You will begin to allow your mind to wander into the abyss. Thoughts of bitterness, hate, and suicide will present themselves. Those around you are in the middle of their own struggles. The struggles of survival, finding hope, and trying to simply make it through another poverty-stricken day on the reservation. You can trust no one. There is no one who understands the intense pain you feel inside. Life is not worth living.

You are beautiful. Young lady, you are beautiful. You are beautiful on the inside and out. I don’t know what you are going through right now, I truly don’t. I have never walked a step in your shoes. I didn’t grow up in poverty. I didn’t grow up not knowing who my father was. I didn’t grow up in an abusive home. I didn’t grow up with adults strung out on drugs. I don’t know. But, I do know, God created you. God created you in His image. God sent His Son, Jesus, to die for you on the cross. God is in love with you. He is jealous for you. God is a father to the fatherless. God is hope for the hopeless. You are beautiful in God’s eyes. God has a plan for your life. God is light. I know your pain, hurt, and loneliness are intense right now. I know in this moment, you can’t see light. You can’t see through the all-consuming darkness. You don’t feel loved, forgiven, or beautiful. But, you must know that YOU ARE LOVED, FORGIVEN, AND YOUR ARE BEAUTIFUL! Don’t quit. Don’t give in. Don’t give up. The light will break through. The sun will soon shine. A new day will come. Young lady, in your darkest hour, in your weakest moments, lift up your eyes to the King of Glory, grab ahold of His outstretched hand, hold tight, and never let go. You are a daughter of the King. Loved. Cherished. Beautiful in His eyes. God will never let go.

The Inner Struggle

I struggle. I struggle a lot. I struggle everyday. It is an inner struggle. An inner battle. I know you struggle. I know you struggle a lot. I know you struggle everyday. The inner struggle. The inner battle. No one is exempt from the struggle.

I have nothing to hide. I know who I am. I know what I am. I know my passion. My purpose. I know why I am alive today. I know my strengths. I know my weakness’. I know where I need to improve. I know my shortcomings. I know my failures. I know where I have missed the mark. I know that I and you, are imperfect, works of art in progress. Knowing all of this, allows me to know, you need to hear what I am saying. WE ALL STRUGGLE. WE ARE ALL GOING THROUGH AN INNER STRUGGLE TODAY. Each one of us have thousands of thoughts racing through our minds. Each day. Every day. Positive, negative, and indifferent thoughts. They attack us constantly. The thoughts are relentless. All of us struggle on some level controlling our thoughts. The most confident individuals on earth, struggle controlling their thoughts. The wealthiest individuals on earth, struggle controlling their thoughts. The greatest athletes in the world, struggle controlling their thoughts. All of us have insecurities. All of us have had life experiences that have caused us some kind of trauma. All of us have been embarrassed. Made fun of. Laughed at. At times, ridiculed. All of us struggle on some level with wondering what others think about us. All of us struggle on some level with comparing ourselves to others. All of us have jealousies. All of us have annoyances. All of us have prejudices. All of us have body image issues. Some of us have eating disorders. Some of us have severe addictions. All of us have, a lot of issues. With all of our issues, come thousands and thousands of thoughts. Thoughts that can control us. Thoughts that can create fear, anxiety, nervousness, and a host of other debilitating factors. Thoughts are powerful. Thoughts dictate our perception and reality. Our perception and reality of our surroundings, as well as ourselves. Thoughts create an inner struggle. The inner battle. Thoughts become reality. As a man or woman thinks, so they become. As a man or woman thinks, so those around them become.

I want you to know, wherever you are today in your life journey, whatever you are struggling with in this moment, whatever internal battle you are fighting in this moment, as you read this, please hear me, please understand, please grasp, please accept the fact, that you are beautiful. You are beautiful. You are beautiful. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. You are in progress. An artwork, a masterful, beautiful piece of art, in progress. You have gifts. You have talents. You have abilities. You have capabilities. You have opportunities that you have been given to you. You have a Creator that created you to love and to be loved. The struggle is intense. I know. The battle can be overwhelming. I know. The fears, the anxieties, the yearnings for things to be different can be nearly unbearable at times. I know. I’ve been there. I am there. I will continue to be here, in the struggle, in the battle, just as you are. We struggle together. We battle together. Your struggles may be different from mine, your battles may look different then mine, but you struggle, I struggle, we all struggle, we all battle from within. Lift up your eyes. Look around. See the beauty. The beauty within the struggle. The beauty within the battle. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU WILL OVERCOME.

Valentines Day

Not having a significant other on Valentine’s Day sucks.  The older I get, the more it sucks.  I am not stating this to get attention.  I am not stating this to get sympathy.  I am stating this because I know there are a lot of people out there who can relate.  I am always happy for others who are happy.  When I have the opportunity to see people who are loving life, it puts a smile on my face.  When I see couples holding hands, showing each other affection, my heart smiles.  But the reality for me, and I know the reality for a lot of others out there, is the fact that life can be very lonely.  Even when we are surrounded by others, even when we have deep, connected fellowship with other humans, such as friends, family, co-workers etc., the truth is, there is nothing that can replace the fulfillment, love, joy, and security of a significant other.  There is nothing more beautiful then loving and being loved, deeply, intimately, and securely by a significant other.  If you find yourself alone today in the midst of those you are surrounded by, if you find yourself yearning for the beauty of a life shared with a significant other, if you find yourself frustrated today, let me encourage you with this…….Life unfolds as life unfolds.  Use this season of life you are in right now to refine yourself, improve yourself, and prepare yourself for the time when your significant other appears.  Be the best version of yourself today, tomorrow, and in all the days to come.  Continue to be a leader.  An example.  Someone to follow.  Continue to serve.  Continue to learn.  Continue to love.  Continue to be someone that someone else would want to be with.  No matter what you are feeling today, no matter how overwhelming your emotions may be today, today is a gift, today is an opportunity, and today is beautiful.  Open your heart, and allow your light to shine.

You Never Know…….

You never know the impact you may have on the life of a child. A rightly spoken word or a timely action, could literally, alter a child’s life. As we shift from adolescent to adult, as the years go by, most of us tend to lose the innocence, the beauty, and the purity of childhood. We tend to lose sight of the most important things, the most valuable things in life. A lot of us, lose sight of reality, the older we get. We forget childhood. We forget innocence. We forget the beauty. We forget the purity, of youth. We forget the dreams of yesteryear. We become negative, hurried, busied, stressed, and frustrated adults. People who live life going through the motions, because that’s what we “have” to do. Take a step back with me. Take a look back with me. Remember. Reflect. Step back to your younger years. Look back to who you were. Remember the excitement, the anticipation, the joy, of a life as a child. Reflect on your childhood dreams. So innocent. So beautiful. So pure. AMAZING. You are still that child. The innocence, beauty, and purity still exist, no matter what you have gone through, no matter how hurt you have been, no matter what you have suffered. You are still a child. There is still excitement. Still anticipation. There is still joy deep within your soul. Your dreams are still available. Attainable. You never know, until you try. You never know, until you take that step of faith. You never know, who you could be. You never know, how much you matter to the children around you. YOU MATTER. God has bestowed gifts, talents, and abilities to you. You are loved! The kids, the youth, the children in your life, they want you. They need you. They are starving for your love, affection, and attention. YOU MATTER. THEY MATTER. Let love flow. Let kindness flow. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Accessible. Real. Allow yourself to dream, once again. Allow yourself to feel, once again. Allow yourself to matter, once again. Allow yourself to be a child, once again. Extend your hand to the hurting. The hurting child, children, in your life. Be a servant. A servant to the least of these. Boldly. Relentlessly. Fearlessly. Allow your life to be transformed by a child. Allow your life to transform a child. Be strong. Be open. Be an example. Be someone to follow. Today, tomorrow, and until you have breathed your last. Live life fully. Live life for the children. For the next generation. Be the reason. The reason a child has hope for a brighter tomorrow. You never know…….

Detach

Remove yourself from your feelings and emotions.  Step outside of yourself in order to think, see, and hear clearly.  Too often, we are lost in ourselves.  Lost in our feelings, emotions, anxieties, fears, and sorrows.  Too often, we can’t get past the inner self, in order to accomplish the tasks to reach our full potential.  We need to detach.  We need to learn to detach.  We need to learn to let go.  We need to understand that mistakes, mishaps, and failure are all a part of the life process.  Never to be avoided, but mistakes, mishaps, and failure should be expected, accepted, and learned from.  You are not perfect.  You will never be perfect in this life.  Perfection and the pursuit of, is myth.  Unattainable.  Do not strive for perfection.  Rather, strive for growth.  Strive for maturity.  Strive to become a better you, TODAY!

The Crowd

When you follow the crowd, you die by the crowd.  Is it important to have connection with others?  I believe so.  We need connection.  We need interaction with others.  We need community.  But, we also need to be cautious.  We need to be aware.  We need to know who we are as an individual.  Otherwise, we easily get sucked into other people’s thoughts, beliefs, and stupidity.  We get sucked into the ease, the comfort of just following.  We get lost in the crowd.  We then, lose sight of who we are, who we are to be, and who we are to become.  We have no individual identity.  No foundation.  No direction.  Lost in the crowd, we end up wasting a life.  Our life.  We eventually end up dead in the crowd of the average.  Our memory is swept away.  RESIST THE PULL, INTO THE CROWD.

Listen. Learn. Love. Live

Listen.  Learn.  Love.  Live.  This life is meant to be lived.  Fully.  Passionately.  Extremely.  We only have one opportunity, one shot at this life.  In order to live a full life, one must embrace the need to listen.  Learning to listen, knowing how to listen, is the key that unlocks the door to a full, passionate, and extreme life that is worth living.  When you listen, you provide yourself with the opportunity to learn.  When you learn, when you begin to learn, and continue to learn, you understand, love, is the greatest lesson.  Love is the greatest gain.  Love is the greatest gift one can give, and receive.  Love never fails.  You listen.  You learn.  You begin to love.  You truly, begin to live.  Fully.  Passionately.  Extremely, a life worth living.