The Inner Struggle

I struggle. I struggle a lot. I struggle everyday. It is an inner struggle. An inner battle. I know you struggle. I know you struggle a lot. I know you struggle everyday. The inner struggle. The inner battle. No one is exempt from the struggle.

I have nothing to hide. I know who I am. I know what I am. I know my passion. My purpose. I know why I am alive today. I know my strengths. I know my weakness’. I know where I need to improve. I know my shortcomings. I know my failures. I know where I have missed the mark. I know that I and you, are imperfect, works of art in progress. Knowing all of this, allows me to know, you need to hear what I am saying. WE ALL STRUGGLE. WE ARE ALL GOING THROUGH AN INNER STRUGGLE TODAY. Each one of us have thousands of thoughts racing through our minds. Each day. Every day. Positive, negative, and indifferent thoughts. They attack us constantly. The thoughts are relentless. All of us struggle on some level controlling our thoughts. The most confident individuals on earth, struggle controlling their thoughts. The wealthiest individuals on earth, struggle controlling their thoughts. The greatest athletes in the world, struggle controlling their thoughts. All of us have insecurities. All of us have had life experiences that have caused us some kind of trauma. All of us have been embarrassed. Made fun of. Laughed at. At times, ridiculed. All of us struggle on some level with wondering what others think about us. All of us struggle on some level with comparing ourselves to others. All of us have jealousies. All of us have annoyances. All of us have prejudices. All of us have body image issues. Some of us have eating disorders. Some of us have severe addictions. All of us have, a lot of issues. With all of our issues, come thousands and thousands of thoughts. Thoughts that can control us. Thoughts that can create fear, anxiety, nervousness, and a host of other debilitating factors. Thoughts are powerful. Thoughts dictate our perception and reality. Our perception and reality of our surroundings, as well as ourselves. Thoughts create an inner struggle. The inner battle. Thoughts become reality. As a man or woman thinks, so they become. As a man or woman thinks, so those around them become.

I want you to know, wherever you are today in your life journey, whatever you are struggling with in this moment, whatever internal battle you are fighting in this moment, as you read this, please hear me, please understand, please grasp, please accept the fact, that you are beautiful. You are beautiful. You are beautiful. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. You are in progress. An artwork, a masterful, beautiful piece of art, in progress. You have gifts. You have talents. You have abilities. You have capabilities. You have opportunities that you have been given to you. You have a Creator that created you to love and to be loved. The struggle is intense. I know. The battle can be overwhelming. I know. The fears, the anxieties, the yearnings for things to be different can be nearly unbearable at times. I know. I’ve been there. I am there. I will continue to be here, in the struggle, in the battle, just as you are. We struggle together. We battle together. Your struggles may be different from mine, your battles may look different then mine, but you struggle, I struggle, we all struggle, we all battle from within. Lift up your eyes. Look around. See the beauty. The beauty within the struggle. The beauty within the battle. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU WILL OVERCOME.

Ashley DePaulis: Sustainable Health Practitioner and Creator of The Inner Athlete

Ashley is a sustainable health practitioner.  She also is the creator of The Inner Athlete.  Ashley and I have an awesome conversation covering a variety of topics.  We really dig deep into Ashley’s story, which includes several life-changing vehicular accidents, in which one involved being hit by a drunk driver.  Ashley opens up about her challenges with PTSD and how this became an impetus for her to begin focusing on the inner person, or inner athlete.  We also talk about Ashley’s childhood experience of being an only child, body energy, the importance of knowing who you are, alone time, and much more!  Ashley is a strong, energetic, lively, and beautiful soul!  You will thoroughly enjoy our conversation and Ashley’s vulnerability with her story.

Ashley’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/the.inner.athlete/

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/ashley.depaulis?epa=SEARCH_BOX

127 Fitness Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/127fitness/

Amy Morrison: MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Wellness Coach, XPT Trainer, and Owner of True Core Health

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Amy is a well-rounded individual.  She not only has her Master’s degree in counseling, she also is an XPT certified trainer, wellness coach, and owner of True Core Health.  Amy is a wealth of knowledge.  Her and I cover a variety of topics in our conversation, but we focus mainly on her counseling practice.  We cover counseling topics such as anxiety, body image, and the importance of knowing that you are worthy.  Amy and I met up in Denver, CO at Just BE Kitchen.  Our conversation takes place outside, on the back patio of Just BE, it was a bit windy and chilly that day, so be mindful of that as you listen.  You may also hear a few side conversations or side laughter during our chat, there were other customers on the patio with us:)  Thank you Just BE Kitchen for allowing us to record the podcast at your beautiful location!

Amy’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/truecorehealth/

Amy’s Website:

http://truecorehealth.com/

127 Fitness Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/127fitness/

You Never Know…….

You never know the impact you may have on the life of a child. A rightly spoken word or a timely action, could literally, alter a child’s life. As we shift from adolescent to adult, as the years go by, most of us tend to lose the innocence, the beauty, and the purity of childhood. We tend to lose sight of the most important things, the most valuable things in life. A lot of us, lose sight of reality, the older we get. We forget childhood. We forget innocence. We forget the beauty. We forget the purity, of youth. We forget the dreams of yesteryear. We become negative, hurried, busied, stressed, and frustrated adults. People who live life going through the motions, because that’s what we “have” to do. Take a step back with me. Take a look back with me. Remember. Reflect. Step back to your younger years. Look back to who you were. Remember the excitement, the anticipation, the joy, of a life as a child. Reflect on your childhood dreams. So innocent. So beautiful. So pure. AMAZING. You are still that child. The innocence, beauty, and purity still exist, no matter what you have gone through, no matter how hurt you have been, no matter what you have suffered. You are still a child. There is still excitement. Still anticipation. There is still joy deep within your soul. Your dreams are still available. Attainable. You never know, until you try. You never know, until you take that step of faith. You never know, who you could be. You never know, how much you matter to the children around you. YOU MATTER. God has bestowed gifts, talents, and abilities to you. You are loved! The kids, the youth, the children in your life, they want you. They need you. They are starving for your love, affection, and attention. YOU MATTER. THEY MATTER. Let love flow. Let kindness flow. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Accessible. Real. Allow yourself to dream, once again. Allow yourself to feel, once again. Allow yourself to matter, once again. Allow yourself to be a child, once again. Extend your hand to the hurting. The hurting child, children, in your life. Be a servant. A servant to the least of these. Boldly. Relentlessly. Fearlessly. Allow your life to be transformed by a child. Allow your life to transform a child. Be strong. Be open. Be an example. Be someone to follow. Today, tomorrow, and until you have breathed your last. Live life fully. Live life for the children. For the next generation. Be the reason. The reason a child has hope for a brighter tomorrow. You never know…….

Overcoming Anxiety and Fear

We experience so many feelings and emotions throughout the day. We have approximately 60,000-80,000 thoughts in a twenty-four hour period. The majority of us deal each day with some kind of anxiety, depression, and fear. There is a lot that happens within our brain, within our mind. Personally, I struggle daily with controlling my mind, controlling my thoughts, and controlling my anxieties. From the time I was a tween, I have had a conscious fight, a conscious battle with my mind. With my feelings, emotions, anxieties, and fears. At times when I was younger, I could barely bring myself to get out of bed because the anxiety and fear of the day was so great. There seemed to be an overbearing weight that was upon my shoulders. Recently, over the last several years, I have learned that I have control, full control over my mind. I have control over my thoughts, my anxieties, my fears, and the outcome of my days. I cannot control others. I cannot control the weather, or any other outside variable. But I can control what goes on inside of me. I can control my mind. Now, the feelings, emotions, anxieties, and fears are still present in my life. They always will be. They are a part of me until the day I die. But I do not have to be a slave to these feelings, emotion, anxieties, and fears. I do not have to allow these to control my life, how I live, how I serve, how I love. How have I come to the point in my life where I no longer suffer from my anxieties and fears? I have learned that I have to go against the anxiety, the fear, the feelings, and the emotions. I have to attack them. Every day. Each day, head on, aggressively, relentlessly. When my feelings and emotions are strong, when the anxiety and fear is trying to suffocate me and hold me back, I have to decide I am not going to be a victim. I am not going to give in, I am not going to allow what is happing inside of me to effect what I want to accomplish that day, week, month, or year. I AM IN CONTROL! My feelings, emotions, anxieties, and fears ARE NOT IN CONTROL! I cannot waste my life. I cannot waste what has been given to me to give. I cannot waste the opportunities I have been presented! I have to live my life fully! I have to be the man I know I am to be! I have to be a leader! I have to be an example! I have to be someone to follow! I must overcome. I must be the master of my mind, all day, every day. I must be stronger then the weakness that wants to win. I accept that I am not perfect. I will never be perfect this side of heaven. Perfection is a myth. But I can work harder, work smarter, learn more, apply more, grow more, mature more, serve more, give more. I can’t stop. I won’t stop. My feelings, emotions, anxieties, and fears have no power over me. They have lost. I have won. The fight, the battle continues. The beautiful struggle of life.

Young at Heart

No matter where life takes me, I will always remain young at heart. There are so many opportunities in life to allow yourself to become hard hearted. To allow your heart to become jaded, calloused, and cold. Life can be very difficult at times. There are so many unexpected twists and turns. There are a lot of negative, ruthless, and untrustworthy people in life. There are a lot of reasons within life to allow ourselves to become distant from the innocence of our youth. But at the end of the day, I want to experience the fullness of life, experience the fullness of my life. I want to enjoy the journey, the process, and the ups and downs of my life. I want to be youthful in all of my pursuits. I want to remain youthful, youthful in heart, youthful in my soul, youthful in my dreams, and youthful in my actions. I never want to grow up. I never want to lose my innocence of youth. I never want to become an old, mean, has-been. I will continue to wonder. I will continue to imagine. I will continue to dream. I will continue to wander. I will continue to roam. I will continue to question. I will continue to step into the uncomfortable. I will continue to step toward my fears. I will continue to put myself out there, into the unknown. I will continue to share. I will continue to serve. I will continue to learn. I will continue to train. I will continue to allow my spirit to dance freely. I will continue to run my race. I will continue to allow discipline to lead me. I will remain focused. I will continue to be me. I am young. Young at heart. Young in spirit. Today. Tomorrow. Forever.

Detach

Remove yourself from your feelings and emotions.  Step outside of yourself in order to think, see, and hear clearly.  Too often, we are lost in ourselves.  Lost in our feelings, emotions, anxieties, fears, and sorrows.  Too often, we can’t get past the inner self, in order to accomplish the tasks to reach our full potential.  We need to detach.  We need to learn to detach.  We need to learn to let go.  We need to understand that mistakes, mishaps, and failure are all a part of the life process.  Never to be avoided, but mistakes, mishaps, and failure should be expected, accepted, and learned from.  You are not perfect.  You will never be perfect in this life.  Perfection and the pursuit of, is myth.  Unattainable.  Do not strive for perfection.  Rather, strive for growth.  Strive for maturity.  Strive to become a better you, TODAY!