The greatest resistance in my life is fear. The greatest enemy in my life is fear. The greatest obstacle in my life is fear. The greatest opportunity for me each day, is overcoming my fear. Fear is real. Fear isn’t real. It all depends on how you perceive fear. How you accept fear into your life. How you respond to fear. Fear is natural. I don’t care who you are, how crazy or hard you think you are, you have fear. We all have fear. We all struggle with fears. Take a step back though, and think about the reality of fear. What is the reality of fear? Why do we fear? Why do we allow fear to hinder our lives? Why do we allow fear to prevent us from reaching our full human potential? Why do we allow fear to consume us? Why do we allow fear to destroy us? Fear can be overcome. How? Fear is simply a figment within our mind, within our imagination. Essentially, within our minds, we make fear up. We allow this figment to effect our being, our existence. We allow fear to grab ahold of our mind, heart, and soul. We allow fear to take root within us. And once we allow fear in, it is an absolute cancer. BUT, FEAR CAN BE DEFEATED! Fear is an invisible enemy that CAN BE CONQUERED! What does it take? It takes willingness. A willingness to let go. A willingness to let go of fear! Fear can become a comfort for some. A crutch. An excuse. People let fear be their reason they never become who they know they should be come. They are comfortable with underachieving, comfortable with a life unfulfilled, comfortable with a life wasted. Fear is the reason. Fear is the crutch. The excuse. You have to be willing. Willing to let go of the comfort, the crutch, the excuse. You have to be willing to step into the uncomfortable. Be willing to step into the unknown. Be willing to step into failure. Be willing to step into success. You have to be willing to fulfill your purpose, your destiny, your calling within this life. You have to be willing to let go of yourself. Your ego, your pride, your arrogance. Fear flees when an individual attacks. When an individual takes a stand. When an individual accepts humility and refuses to give in to their fear any longer. Fear is defeated, conquered when we let go, and leap into the fire.
Up ahead the road turns. Where does it turn to? That, I do not know. All I know is that I have to continue down this road. This is the road I have chosen to take. This is the less-traveled road. The road that most choose not to take. The exact reason I chose this specific road. I don’t want to travel down the road taken by most. I don’t want a road that is well lit, well marked, well worn. I want a road that is dark. A road unmarked, hardly traveled, full of potholes and speed bumps. I want a road that is unknown. Unfamiliar. Off the main drag. Wherever this road turns up ahead, it doesn’t matter to me. It is not about the end destination. For me, this road I am traveling down is about the process of learning along the way. When I don’t know exactly where I am going, when I don’t know exactly how I am going to get where I think I want to go, this challenges me. This tests me. This stretches me. This forces me to learn. This forces me to adjust. This forces me to rethink. This forces me to examine, ponder, question. This forces me to grow, mature, and let go of myself. I am thankful for this road. This road that I have chosen. No, this road isn’t for everyone. No, this road isn’t the easy way. And no, this road isn’t always enjoyable, but this road gives me peace, satisfaction, and at the end of each day, when it’s time to rest, traveling down this road is exactly the road I know I am suppose to be on. The road less-traveled. The difficult road. The uncomfortable road. The road unlike any other.
My fears want to hold me back. My anxiety wants to hold me back. My mind wants to hold me back. I want to give in. I want to let up. I want to be normal. But I can’t. And I won’t. I have to keep going. I have to press on. I have to live each day fully. I have to be a good steward of what has been given to me. I have to be an example, one to follow. A leader. A role model. I have to test myself. Challenge myself. Allow myself to experience uncomfortable. I have to overcome. Overcome the fears, the anxiety, the wandering mind. I have to overcome the pull to be satisfied, content, and complacent. I have to encourage and teach others. I have to practice what I preach.
It’s not about me. Not even a little bit. I wasn’t put on this earth to serve myself. I wasn’t put on this earth to create a better life for me. Yes, I firmly believe it is crucial we take care of ourselves, our mind, our body, and our spirit. This will only allow us to serve others in a greater capacity. But at the end of the day, your life isn’t about you. This life isn’t about you. This world doesn’t revolve around you, sorry. Honestly, there are very few people who actually care one iota about you. There are very few people in this world who know your name, who know your interests, who know ANYTHING about you. In the grand scheme of things, you are nothing. So why do you think you are something? Why are you so caught up in yourself? Why are you so arrogant? Selfish? Self-centered? Your life is but a vapor, here today, gone tomorrow. That is truth. This is reality. This life is NOT about you. This life is about others. Your life should be about others. We were made for community. We were created for others. To serve others. To help others. To protect others. To love others. As human beings, we need each other. We need interaction, communication, fellowship with one another. Get over yourself. Get rid of yourself. Let go of your arrogance. Let go of your pride. Let go of your ignorance. Humble yourself. Open up yours eyes, open up your ears, open up your heart, that you may learn, grow, mature, share, teach, and serve others. Step into your purpose. Step into your destiny. Become the individual you were created to become.
I want to have a youth camp. A camp for troubled youth. A camp focused on physical training. A camp focused on leadership. A camp that focuses on discipline, hard work, and humility. I want to bring in men who are living examples. Men who have done, and continue to do hard things, difficult things. Men who walk their talk. Real men. Genuine. Authentic. Self-less. Life long learners. Through these camps I want to create a culture, a team, a tribe for these troubled youth to be a part of. I want these youth to be able to connect with the men beyond the camp. I want to foster mentorship. Accountability. Continued learning, growing, exploring, and maturing. I want this camp to be a turning point. A turning point in the lives of the youth who come, participate, connect, and finish. I want this camp to inspire. Encourage. Stoke the fire within. I want this camp to be the beginning of endless opportunity for these youth. I want this camp to be a step in a new direction. The right direction. A step down the road, the trail, the path less-traveled.
Why do you want to try to be like someone else? I found myself often in my youth trying to be like someone else. I would try to dress, talk, and act like other people. For one reason or another, I would want to be someone different from who I was. I attribute a lot of this to the ignorance of my youth. As young people, we are so impressionable, we are so influenced by those around us, by our peers, teachers, coaches, actors, professional athletes, etc. We soak in so much of our surroundings. As youth, we are trying to find our identity. Trying to figure out where we belong, who we are, how the world works. I get that. But what about now? What about today? As adults, why so often, do we try to be someone we are not? Why are we still trying to be like other people? Why are we not comfortable being who we are? Why are we not comfortable, confident, in our uniqueness, our beauty, our individuality, our strengths, our weaknesses? Why do we try to hide ourselves? Why do we try to ignore who we are, cover up who we are, pretend we are something or someone else? I see adults constantly putting on a front. They are hiding behind someone else. They try to talk like someone else. They try to act like someone else. They are simply, not themselves. To be frank, it’s weird. It’s awkward. And honestly, it’s sad. Adults trying to be another adult. Adults so insecure in themselves, they hide themselves behind another flawed adult. We have to realize all of us are flawed. We all have issues. We all have problems. I don’t care who you are, where you live, what your profession is, how much money is in your bank account, what type of degrees you have, so on and so forth, at the end of the day, all humans are one in the same. We came from the dust, and we will return to the dust. On a human level, no one is above anyone else. So, why hide? Why hide behind another flawed, messed up, imperfect human being? Why hide who you are and what you have to offer the world? Just like everyone else, you have gifts, talents, abilities, and a voice. You count. You are a part of the game of life, just as much as anyone else. You matter. You are important. What you have to offer, is important, it is valuable. We need you to be you. We need you to be who God created you to be. There is only one of you. Just as there is only one of me. If we hide behind someone else, we are wasting our lives, we are wasting our opportunities. The world doesn’t need a copy of someone else, the world needs you, the world needs me. Just as we are. Flaws and all.
I have to get better. I absolutely have to get better. I realize my insufficiency. I realize my weakness. I realize that I am but a mere created being. Here today, gone tomorrow. My life is a gift. I do not have it all together. I do not have it all figured out. There is a drive within me to get better. To be better. To do everything I can each day, to be the best version of myself. I so want to be an example. I so want to be a strong leader. Someone to follow. I have to get better. There are areas within my life that I can improve. Areas that need to improve. I cannot allow myself to let up, to settle, to allow complacency to take root. Complacency destroys. Complacency kills. I cannot allow myself to get distracted. I cannot allow myself to lose focus. I cannot allow myself to give into worry, fear, doubt, or negativity. I have to press into discipline. Self-discipline. I have to press into the pursuit of the uncomfortable. I have to press into my Creator. The little things. I have to continue to do the little things. Master the little things. When I don’t feel like it. I have to overcome my feelings, my emotions, my own negativity. I have to overcome the negativity that surrounds me. The negativity produced by the people who come in and out of my life. I have to overcome the pull to get sucked in. Sucked into gossip, backbiting, anger, instant gratification, and self-indulgence. Every day is an opportunity to learn. Every day is an opportunity to be the man or woman you want to be. Every day is an opportunity to get better. I want to get better. I have to get better. I embrace the toil of this process, the process of getting better. I embrace today.