Not having a significant other on Valentine’s Day sucks. The older I get, the more it sucks. I am not stating this to get attention. I am not stating this to get sympathy. I am stating this because I know there are a lot of people out there who can relate. I am always happy for others who are happy. When I have the opportunity to see people who are loving life, it puts a smile on my face. When I see couples holding hands, showing each other affection, my heart smiles. But the reality for me, and I know the reality for a lot of others out there, is the fact that life can be very lonely. Even when we are surrounded by others, even when we have deep, connected fellowship with other humans, such as friends, family, co-workers etc., the truth is, there is nothing that can replace the fulfillment, love, joy, and security of a significant other. There is nothing more beautiful then loving and being loved, deeply, intimately, and securely by a significant other. If you find yourself alone today in the midst of those you are surrounded by, if you find yourself yearning for the beauty of a life shared with a significant other, if you find yourself frustrated today, let me encourage you with this…….Life unfolds as life unfolds. Use this season of life you are in right now to refine yourself, improve yourself, and prepare yourself for the time when your significant other appears. Be the best version of yourself today, tomorrow, and in all the days to come. Continue to be a leader. An example. Someone to follow. Continue to serve. Continue to learn. Continue to love. Continue to be someone that someone else would want to be with. No matter what you are feeling today, no matter how overwhelming your emotions may be today, today is a gift, today is an opportunity, and today is beautiful. Open your heart, and allow your light to shine.
You never know the impact you may have on the life of a child. A rightly spoken word or a timely action, could literally, alter a child’s life. As we shift from adolescent to adult, as the years go by, most of us tend to lose the innocence, the beauty, and the purity of childhood. We tend to lose sight of the most important things, the most valuable things in life. A lot of us, lose sight of reality, the older we get. We forget childhood. We forget innocence. We forget the beauty. We forget the purity, of youth. We forget the dreams of yesteryear. We become negative, hurried, busied, stressed, and frustrated adults. People who live life going through the motions, because that’s what we “have” to do. Take a step back with me. Take a look back with me. Remember. Reflect. Step back to your younger years. Look back to who you were. Remember the excitement, the anticipation, the joy, of a life as a child. Reflect on your childhood dreams. So innocent. So beautiful. So pure. AMAZING. You are still that child. The innocence, beauty, and purity still exist, no matter what you have gone through, no matter how hurt you have been, no matter what you have suffered. You are still a child. There is still excitement. Still anticipation. There is still joy deep within your soul. Your dreams are still available. Attainable. You never know, until you try. You never know, until you take that step of faith. You never know, who you could be. You never know, how much you matter to the children around you. YOU MATTER. God has bestowed gifts, talents, and abilities to you. You are loved! The kids, the youth, the children in your life, they want you. They need you. They are starving for your love, affection, and attention. YOU MATTER. THEY MATTER. Let love flow. Let kindness flow. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Accessible. Real. Allow yourself to dream, once again. Allow yourself to feel, once again. Allow yourself to matter, once again. Allow yourself to be a child, once again. Extend your hand to the hurting. The hurting child, children, in your life. Be a servant. A servant to the least of these. Boldly. Relentlessly. Fearlessly. Allow your life to be transformed by a child. Allow your life to transform a child. Be strong. Be open. Be an example. Be someone to follow. Today, tomorrow, and until you have breathed your last. Live life fully. Live life for the children. For the next generation. Be the reason. The reason a child has hope for a brighter tomorrow. You never know…….
Life can have intense times of loneliness. I personally have spent the majority of my life alone, fighting with loneliness. Some of this has been by choice. Other times, not by choice. Even for those who are constantly surrounded by other people, loneliness can have a strong presence within your life. A lot of the time, people allow loneliness to destroy them. They allow the loneliness to eat at them from the inside out. They allow loneliness to be a dark, depressing, and happiness-destroying presence. People allow loneliness to control their life. But what if you take loneliness and embrace it? What if you choose to learn from it? What if you use loneliness as a positive, rather than a negative? This is a new concept for me, personally. Because I am alone and deal with loneliness a lot, I have come to the realization that being alone can have its benefits, and can indeed be a positive thing. I am learning to embrace the loneliness. The alone time within my life. I am taking the loneliness and using it to drive me. I am using it as preparation, I am using it to teach me. I have big dreams. Big aspirations. Big goals. I want to live life fully. I want to be the man I was created to be. I am using the loneliness to drive me towards my dreams, aspirations, and goals. I am using loneliness to prepare me for my future spouse. I want to do everything the way I would do it, as if I was married, and had someone else to consider and serve. I am also using loneliness to teach me more about myself. Who am I? What do I want out of life? Where am I going? Am I being an example? A leader? Am I practicing what I am preaching? There are days that suck. Days that are difficult, frustrating, overwhelming. I will never deny that. The loneliness sucks. It really sucks at times. But I have accepted it. I am learning to accept the loneliness, I am learning to learn from the loneliness. I will not allow the loneliness within my life to distract me, deter me, or effect who I know I can become. Everyone deals with loneliness at some point in life. Some of us deal with it daily, others, sparingly, but loneliness is a reality for all. It is how we choose to look at loneliness and react to it that defines us and will continue to define us as individuals. Life is not perfect. It never will be. Life will always be imperfect. There will always be highs and lows. Twists and turns. Ups and downs. Times of peace, times of turmoil, and times of intensity. We as humans, have to learn to remain steadfast. We have to learn to remain steady. We have to learn to overcome. That we may grow, mature, and become individuals who shine brightly in the midst of the darkness. Embrace your life. Embrace the good, the bad, and the in-between. Embrace, learn, grow, and become.
I won’t back down. I can’t back down. I won’t quit. I can’t quit. I won’t give in. I will continue to do what needs to get done. I will continue to do what I know I need to do, each day, every day. A lot of days suck, a lot of days are no “Fun.” But that is OK with me. This is what I have been created for. This is what I want, what I have chosen. While you and others indulge in distraction, I will continue working on getting better, stronger, and smarter. I am preparing for the future. Brick by small brick, I am building, creating something new out of the old. I won’t be distracted, I won’t be caught unprepared. You won’t throw me off course. I am focused. I am hyper-focused. Locked-in. Dialed-in. Ready. This place is lonely. But I am learning. I am learning so much about myself and others within the loneliness. You think you know, you think you have it all together, all figured out, but you don’t. You are trapped within a false reality created by and for yourself. You are another soul living in a world of mediocrity and average. I have to rise above, I have to block out all of the noise, block out all of the distractions. I must continue the fight. Continue to fight each day to live the hard, difficult life, that I was born to live.
It’s ok to admit that you are wrong. It’s ok to admit when you don’t know. It’s ok to admit when you mess up, make a mistake, or say something you shouldn’t have. We are all wrong at times. None of us knows absolutely everything. We all mess up, make mistakes, and say things we shouldn’t. All of us are imperfect beings. The troubling thing is though, many people don’t admit when they are wrong. They don’t recognize their lack of knowledge or understanding in areas in which they speak of or on. They don’t admit their mess ups, mistakes, or careless words. Our world is inundated with so many attention whores. People who are addicted to themselves, addicted to their ego, addicted to the reactions and responses they get from others when they say or do ridiculous things. We have a world where people say and do what they want with no repercussions nor consequences. There is little to no accountability. The result of these aforementioned addictions, along with the lack of accountability, is arrogance, self-centeredness, and reckless behavior. I have been around these people who cannot admit they are wrong. Their pride is so strong, they are so self-consumed, they cannot bring themselves to admit their shortcomings. They are blind to their wrong. They cannot see past their ego. We need humility. We need accountability. We need personal accountability. We need discomfort. We need to be tested. Without these, we become inflated. We become content. We become comfortable with our B.S. We only surround ourselves with people, who like us, who are addiction whores as we are. We become a wasted reality. A wasted breath. A wasted, unusable vessel. You are wrong. I am wrong. We are WRONG! We have so much to learn. There is so much to learn! We have so much growth ahead. So many opportunities to try, fail, try again, learn, fail, and continue on. There are so many opportunities for you and me that await. We need to let go of ourselves. Give up ourselves. We need to realize the world is waiting for us to overcome ourselves, so that we can be of service to others. The world is ours for the taking. Don’t be the one who ends up taken by the world. YOU. ARE. WRONG.
It’s ok if they don’t understand. It’s understandable. Understandable that they don’t get it. They don’t grasp it. They can’t wrap their mind around it. You are walking down a different path. You are walking down the less-traveled path. The difficult path. You have been created and called to live a different life. You have chosen to live this life. Each day, you continue to choose this life. This is who you are. This is who you want to be. You can walk away from this life at any time. You can quit. You can choose to live another life, someone else’s life. You can choose another path. But you know deep within your soul, you can’t, you won’t, and you honestly don’t want to. This less-traveled path you are walking down, the difficult path you have chosen to take, it drives you. It burns within you. It separates you. It gives you meaning. Purpose. Focus. Although at times this life is lonely, and at times exhausting, it is worth it. It will be worth it. Eventually, people will see. People will be encouraged. People will follow. Eventually, your time will come to an end. You will pass the baton to another. The example you have set, will continue. Today, you continue on. Quietly, humbly, aggressively. Your light is shining brightly.
The axe is clean. The axe has been sharpened. It is ready for use. I take my axe, and set out to find the largest tree. No one is around. The sky is clear, pure blue. The sun shines brightly, the heat is intense. I stand shirtless, axe in hand, focused on the task before me. It is time. I begin to chop. One chop at a time. This will be a very long process. Once chop at a time. One chop at a time. I get into a rhythm. One chop at a time. One chop at a time. Eventually, my axe will prevail. I will prevail. Patience, endurance, and strength are of utmost. Keep chopping. Keep chopping. The tree will fall. Keep chopping.