No Expectation

We cannot control how other people are going to live their lives. We cannot control how other people will react, respond, and or receive that which we give them. We cannot control other people’s thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions, or their perception of who we are. We literally, have absolutely no control over another person. But, we absolutely DO have control over ourselves. We definitely have control over our reactions, responses, and how we receive that which is given to us. We definitely have control over our thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions, and how we perceive others. And we most definitely have control over how we serve and love!

I am a thinker. I think a lot. I ponder a lot. I analyze a lot. I reflect a lot. I try to interpret what others are putting out there, a lot. My mind is busy. My thoughts are constant. I have been going through a situation over the last several weeks to where my thoughts have been super focused in one area, and one direction. I have been trying to interpret things. Trying to figure things out, work things out within my mind in this specific area. Random things, random words, random thoughts, random phrases and random quotes present themselves to me in my mind, often. I don’t know what it is, but for me, words are beautiful, words are powerful, words have significant meaning, and words play a significant role within my life. Words, phrases, etc. help me to stay focused on living the life I desire to live. This morning, the phrase, “Serve and love with no expectation,” came to me. As I have been wrestling with constant thoughts over this specific situation/area that I previously made reference to, as I have been trying to figure this situation out through my thoughts, pondering, analyzing, reflecting, and interpreting, I have come to the realization, or probably more accurately stated, have been reminded, of the fact that I have NO control over someone else. I CANNOT control someone else’s life. But, once again, I CAN control my life! I CAN control how I serve and how I love those around me! We must serve and love with no expectation. Too often we serve and love in order to receive something in return. We do certain things in life, so that we get certain things back. We live life too often in expectation, that if we live a certain way, if we perform certain tasks/duties, if we jump through certain hoops, then we will get specific results. We live expecting. We live to receive back. True service, genuine love, does not expect anything in return. You serve because you want others to be blessed. You love because you want others to be blessed. Serving and loving in order to get something in return, is again, not true service, nor genuine love. These are simply selfish actions to fill some void or emptiness within our life. We must serve. We must love. We must serve one another. We must love one another. With no expectation. With no strings attached. With no expectancy of anything in return. We serve to serve. We love to love. In order to build others up, to bless others. In order to be the men and women, God created us to be, for His glory. Serve boldly today. Love boldly today. Live boldly today. It’s not about you, it’s about others, ALWAYS.

P.S. I Love You

I want to share life. I want to share life with you. I enjoy my alone time. I enjoy my solitude. I enjoy being free to do what I want. But I am beyond ready to give up that freedom. It’s not about me. It’s not about what I want, my alone time, my solitude, my freedom. It’s about serving another. Someone else. It’s about becoming one. Walking, living, in unity. It’s about sharing my life with you. You sharing your life with me. It’s not about my adventure, it’s about “our” adventure. Together, we are free. Together, we are strong. Together, we are unified. Together, we will struggle. Together, we will disagree. Together, we will fall. But, together, we will learn. Together, we will grow. Together, we will mature. Together, we become better. More loving. More caring. Kinder. Tougher. More humble. More patient. More resilient. Together, we are complete. Two cords are not easily broken. I am yours. You are mine. You are beautiful. You are intelligent. You are persistent. You are passionate. To me, for me, you are perfect. Together, we will explore, experience, wander, wonder, and dream. Together, our lives will shine. Thank you for being you. Thank you for being bold. I can’t wait for our first date. Our first conversation. Our first walk hand in hand under the star studded sky. Our first embrace. Our first kiss. Together. Until death do us part. I can’t wait. But I will. See you soon.

P.S.

I love you

Valentines Day

Not having a significant other on Valentine’s Day sucks.  The older I get, the more it sucks.  I am not stating this to get attention.  I am not stating this to get sympathy.  I am stating this because I know there are a lot of people out there who can relate.  I am always happy for others who are happy.  When I have the opportunity to see people who are loving life, it puts a smile on my face.  When I see couples holding hands, showing each other affection, my heart smiles.  But the reality for me, and I know the reality for a lot of others out there, is the fact that life can be very lonely.  Even when we are surrounded by others, even when we have deep, connected fellowship with other humans, such as friends, family, co-workers etc., the truth is, there is nothing that can replace the fulfillment, love, joy, and security of a significant other.  There is nothing more beautiful then loving and being loved, deeply, intimately, and securely by a significant other.  If you find yourself alone today in the midst of those you are surrounded by, if you find yourself yearning for the beauty of a life shared with a significant other, if you find yourself frustrated today, let me encourage you with this…….Life unfolds as life unfolds.  Use this season of life you are in right now to refine yourself, improve yourself, and prepare yourself for the time when your significant other appears.  Be the best version of yourself today, tomorrow, and in all the days to come.  Continue to be a leader.  An example.  Someone to follow.  Continue to serve.  Continue to learn.  Continue to love.  Continue to be someone that someone else would want to be with.  No matter what you are feeling today, no matter how overwhelming your emotions may be today, today is a gift, today is an opportunity, and today is beautiful.  Open your heart, and allow your light to shine.

Chris Ward: Like A Bigfoot Podcast Host, Ultrarunner, and All Around Good Dude

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-6vqqh-a76930

Chris is the host of Like a Bigfoot Podcast.  Chris’ podcast is an awesome listen for anyone who is interested in physical culture and self-improvement.  Chris is also a Husband, Dad, ultra-runner, and 7th grade science teacher.  Chris and I have a fun, relaxed conversation about a wide-array of topics.  Chris and I have a handful of things in common, including our home state of Iowa.  We start off our conversation discussing some “Iowan” things and then dive into mindset, teaching, ultrarunning, the importance of being an example for youth, and much more!  Chris is a super positive and good dude!  We had a lot of fun with this episode!  Enjoy!

Chris’ Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/likeabigfoot/

Website:

http://likeabigfoot.com/

127 Fit Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/127fitness/

The Vision

127 Fit/Fitness

127:

The 127 in 127 Fit/Fitness is a reference to the Bible verse, James 1:27, which states, Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans (fatherless) and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world.  (NKJV)

Fitness. – We fitness.

Thoughts. – We share thoughts.

Life. – We live life fully.

Vision Statement:

127 Fit/Fitness exists to help the hurting.  Specifically, to help those hurting youth who are without a father.  Our focus is to teach, mentor, and lead fatherless youth through the gift of physical fitness.  We have all been given a gift to give.  Until our final breath, we will relentlessly strive to pass on our gift of physical fitness to the next generation.

Be Someone to Follow:

Be a leader.  Be an example.  Be the leader.  Be the example.  Be someone to follow.  Each day.  Every day.  No matter what.  The youth are watching.  Observing.  Imitating.  We need to be better.  Stronger.  Kinder.  We live fearlessly.  Boldly.  Relentlessly.  Passionately.  We need to live in love.  We need to live in service.  We need to live in community.  It’s not about us.  It’s about others.  We dream.  We wander.  We explore.  We discover.  We learn.  We live.  We teach.  We model.  We fail.  We succeed.  We pass on.  Our days are short.  Our days are numbered.  Be someone to follow.

Podcast:

The 127 Fit Podcast is a platform for individuals within the health and fitness community to be able to share their story, that those who listen would be positively impacted.  Each of us has a unique life/fitness story.  At 127 Fit/Fitness, we firmly believe in the power of an individual’s story!  You never know when your story is shared, how it may impact someone who hears it!  We all have ups and downs in life, sometimes, we just simply need to know that someone else has gone through, or is going through something similar to us.  The podcast is also an opportunity to connect, interact, and build life-long relationships with those of us who are passionate about health and fitness!

Health Foundation:

Sleep

Nutrition

Movement

Mindset 

If you faint in the day of adversity, your strength is small.

-Proverbs 24:10

Please and Thank You

Please and thank you. Simple words. Powerful words. Kind words. Words of manner. Words that seem to have been lost. When I was growing up, I was instructed to use my manners. I was instructed to say please, to say thank you. Today, I rarely hear anyone, young or old, use please and thank you. Why? As a teacher, I am appalled at how often I don’t hear my students using please and thank you in their speech. Sometimes, I am blown away when a student of mine doesn’t even know what using your manners means. I believe the loss of these words, please and thank you, are a direct reflection on the entitled culture we live in. It is also a direct reflection of the arrogant culture we live in. So many people, young and old, have this idea that they have it all together, and have it all figured out. They get what they want, when they want, how they want. Using your manners, please and thank you specifically, is an indication of humility, kindness, and respect. When someone is entitled, arrogant, and disrespectful, their speech will reflect this. Even though I grew up learning to use my manners, I am far from perfect. At times in my life, I have failed to use my manners to the fullest. At times in my life, I have been the entitled, arrogant, and disrespectful individual. But now as an adult, a teacher, and having the burning desire deep with my soul to be someone to follow, I have been focusing lately on using my manners, please and thank you as much as possible. I find using my manners especially valuable when interacting, speaking, and asking my student to do or not to do something. I am finding when my speech is full of please and thank you, I have greater self-control and a stronger hold on my emotions. These are very important when you are a teacher, parent, or coach. Please and thank you. There is always room for improvement, growth, and maturity, no matter your educational background, age, or financial status. Let’s stay focused on the little things. The simple things. Let’s start small. Let’s start with our words. Let’s start with please and thank you. Let’s see where this will take us.

Joe and Samantha Todd: Spartan Barbell (Strength, Hardwork, Dedication)

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-27d9f-a690f5

Joe and Samantha Todd are the owners of the powerlifting gym, Spartan Barbell in Colorado Springs, CO.  Joe and Samantha are the first couple I have had the pleasure of interviewing on the 127 Fit podcast.  We had a great conversation covering a wide array of topics that included, marriage, parenting, nutrition, powerlifting, and the importance of strength for women, among many others.  Joe and Samantha have many years of experience in the iron game.  If you are a strength athlete, or are interested in getting into the iron game, this episode will not disappoint!  Enjoy!  Please make sure you like, subscribe, and most importantly, leave a review on iTunes!  Thanks!

Spartan Barbell Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/spartanbbell/

Website:

https://www.spartanbarbell.net/

Upcoming event for Spartan Barbell:

Spartan Barbell will be sponsoring @junkyard_training Ladies ONLY meet! As a Valentines Day special, we are offering a discounted 12 week meet prep program to any lady that signs up for this meet! Whether it’s your first time, or you are an experienced lifter, this meet is going to be a blast! Send a DM if interested, and tag all of your girlfriends!

127 Fitness Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/127fitness/