If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, to describe who you are, what you’re all about, why you exist, what word would you choose? For me, the word that I would choose, and have chosen, is the word serve. I have come to learn that I was put on this earth not to serve myself, but to serve others. My life, is not about me. My life is to be about, and for, others. God did not gift me so that I could create a better life for myself, but God has gifted me so that I could help create a better life for others. I feel the most alive, I experience the greatest joy, when I am in service to others. My soul burns to serve others. My heart yearns to be a man who puts others ahead of self. I want to be a leader. An example. I want to be someone to follow. All of these begin with service. A leader, an example, and an individual to follow, must first become, and continue to be, a servant. A servant is one who takes action. Consistent action. Day in, and day out. A true servant is one who seeks no glory, praise, or recognition from others, but they quietly, relentlessly, and boldly serve in the shadows of those servants who have gone before them. A true servant is living for that which is beyond the here and now, beyond the distraction of materialism. A true servant realizes the present is not what the future reality has to be. There is more. So much more to life then living for one’s self. Life is service. Service is life. You and I were made to serve one another. To love one another, until death do us part. Serve. If I had to choose one word to describe myself, to describe who I am, why I am here, what I am living for, I would, and will continually choose the word, serve. I am a servant. What are you?
Tyler Johnson is a Husband, Father, Coach, Mentor, Trainer, and Founder of Elev8 Educ8 Rejuven8. Tyler and I have an awesome conversation covering a variety of topics. Some of the topics we discussed included: Family life, childhood experiences, finding purpose, the importance of athletics, leadership, and much more. Tyler is full of fire and passion for life. You will thoroughly enjoy this episode!
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Each day you choose who you will be. Each day you choose who you will become. How often do you hear people blaming others for their stupidity? It’s always someone else’s fault. There is no self-responsibility, no internal examination. People want to point the finger, people want to tear others down. It makes insecure people feel good about themselves, at least temporarily. I’m not interested in that life. I used to be that person. The person who was always tearing others down, in order to build my insecure self up. I am sure I have been guilty more often than not of pointing my finger at someone and trying to put the blame on them as well. But today, I am learning to live my life not focused on what everyone else is or isn’t doing, but focusing on what I am doing and need to do. I am learning, each day is an opportunity to grow. An opportunity to get better. I don’t need to blame others. How about I look in the mirror and find out what’s wrong with me, before I try to find out what’s wrong with someone else? I control who I am, who I will become. Why waste energy on that which I have no control over? Live. Listen. Learn. Love. Each and everyday.
It is interesting how we live in a culture that wants everything, RIGHT NOW. There is no waiting, no patience, no discipline to deny the instant gratification that tugs at us so hard. Most people just give in, it’s a lot easier to do so. And we see the ramifications of the RIGHT NOW attitude all around us. Overweight adults, overweight youth, large increases in preventable disease, broken families due to divorce and children being born out of wedlock, increases in gun violence, the list goes on and on. It’s sick and pathetic. Great things, powerful things, lasting things, take time to create, to build. They take hard work, discipline, focus, drive, and passion. If you look no further then the house or building you are currently in, there was a process to building this structure, it took time. A plan was created, the foundation was laid, so on and so forth. Building something meaningful, impactful, and again, lasting, doesn’t and won’t happen over-night. You have to be willing to endure, suffer even. You have to be able to block out the noise, the doubters, the naysayers, the negativity that wants to destroy. You have to build no matter what, whatever it takes. In the end, the product, the outcome, the results, will be worth the toil and the labor.
We cannot control how other people are going to live their lives. We cannot control how other people will react, respond, and or receive that which we give them. We cannot control other people’s thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions, or their perception of who we are. We literally, have absolutely no control over another person. But, we absolutely DO have control over ourselves. We definitely have control over our reactions, responses, and how we receive that which is given to us. We definitely have control over our thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions, and how we perceive others. And we most definitely have control over how we serve and love!
I am a thinker. I think a lot. I ponder a lot. I analyze a lot. I reflect a lot. I try to interpret what others are putting out there, a lot. My mind is busy. My thoughts are constant. I have been going through a situation over the last several weeks to where my thoughts have been super focused in one area, and one direction. I have been trying to interpret things. Trying to figure things out, work things out within my mind in this specific area. Random things, random words, random thoughts, random phrases and random quotes present themselves to me in my mind, often. I don’t know what it is, but for me, words are beautiful, words are powerful, words have significant meaning, and words play a significant role within my life. Words, phrases, etc. help me to stay focused on living the life I desire to live. This morning, the phrase, “Serve and love with no expectation,” came to me. As I have been wrestling with constant thoughts over this specific situation/area that I previously made reference to, as I have been trying to figure this situation out through my thoughts, pondering, analyzing, reflecting, and interpreting, I have come to the realization, or probably more accurately stated, have been reminded, of the fact that I have NO control over someone else. I CANNOT control someone else’s life. But, once again, I CAN control my life! I CAN control how I serve and how I love those around me! We must serve and love with no expectation. Too often we serve and love in order to receive something in return. We do certain things in life, so that we get certain things back. We live life too often in expectation, that if we live a certain way, if we perform certain tasks/duties, if we jump through certain hoops, then we will get specific results. We live expecting. We live to receive back. True service, genuine love, does not expect anything in return. You serve because you want others to be blessed. You love because you want others to be blessed. Serving and loving in order to get something in return, is again, not true service, nor genuine love. These are simply selfish actions to fill some void or emptiness within our life. We must serve. We must love. We must serve one another. We must love one another. With no expectation. With no strings attached. With no expectancy of anything in return. We serve to serve. We love to love. In order to build others up, to bless others. In order to be the men and women, God created us to be, for His glory. Serve boldly today. Love boldly today. Live boldly today. It’s not about you, it’s about others, ALWAYS.
You have to stay focused. You have to keep moving forward. You have to keep putting in the work. You have to continue to live relentlessly. Don’t let up. Don’t allow yourself to get comfortable. Don’t allow distractions to deter you. I know you wish some things were different, but you can’t control what you can’t control. You can only control what you can control. You control how you live your life everyday. You control your thoughts. You control your work ethic. You control your kindness. You control your love. I know you are lonely. I know you yearn to share life with someone. I know you yearn to help hurting youth. These will come. I don’t know when, but they will come. You continue to be someone to follow, each day. Be the leader you were created to be. Be the example you were made to be. Stay positive. Build others up. Continue to be real. Authentic. Straight-forward. Continue to be you. Unwavering. Disciplined. Consistent. Focused. Continue to live your life completely, fully, as if there were no tomorrow. Remain humble. God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Remain teachable. Remain steadfast. Your light is shining. People see. People know. You are having an impact. Just stay the course. Stay focused. Keep moving forward.
I want to serve you. I will serve you. I want to listen to you. I will listen to you. I want to love you. I will love you. I want to be the man you’ve always wanted. I will be the man you’ve always wanted. I am not perfect. I don’t have it all figured out. I am unfinished. I am learning. But I have been waiting for this moment for nearly 32 years. Yearning for this moment, preparing for this moment, anticipating this moment. I don’t know your future. I don’t know my future. I don’t know our future. But, I will give you everything within me to give. I will serve you. Listen to you. Love you. The best I can. The best I know how. I will be the man God created me to be. I can be nothing more. And what will be, will be.