Jacki Carr: Goal Coach, Leadership Consultant, Speaker, & Co-Founder of Rock Your Bliss

Jacki Carr is an amazing, influential woman.  She is not only a goal coach, leadership consultant, speaker, and co-founder of Rock Your Bliss, she also is a Wife, Mother, hiker, podcaster, and the creator of Goals Hikes.  Jacki and I have a fun conversation covering a variety of topics which included: The importance of knowing your why?  Favorite book, marriage, motherhood, and of course, much more!  Jacki is full of positive energy, happiness, and love.  You will thoroughly enjoy this conversation!

Jacki’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/jackicarr/

127 Fitness Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/127fitness/

Each Day

Each day you choose who you will be. Each day you choose who you will become. How often do you hear people blaming others for their stupidity? It’s always someone else’s fault. There is no self-responsibility, no internal examination. People want to point the finger, people want to tear others down. It makes insecure people feel good about themselves, at least temporarily. I’m not interested in that life. I used to be that person. The person who was always tearing others down, in order to build my insecure self up. I am sure I have been guilty more often than not of pointing my finger at someone and trying to put the blame on them as well. But today, I am learning to live my life not focused on what everyone else is or isn’t doing, but focusing on what I am doing and need to do. I am learning, each day is an opportunity to grow. An opportunity to get better. I don’t need to blame others. How about I look in the mirror and find out what’s wrong with me, before I try to find out what’s wrong with someone else? I control who I am, who I will become. Why waste energy on that which I have no control over? Live. Listen. Learn. Love. Each and everyday.

No Expectation

We cannot control how other people are going to live their lives. We cannot control how other people will react, respond, and or receive that which we give them. We cannot control other people’s thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions, or their perception of who we are. We literally, have absolutely no control over another person. But, we absolutely DO have control over ourselves. We definitely have control over our reactions, responses, and how we receive that which is given to us. We definitely have control over our thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions, and how we perceive others. And we most definitely have control over how we serve and love!

I am a thinker. I think a lot. I ponder a lot. I analyze a lot. I reflect a lot. I try to interpret what others are putting out there, a lot. My mind is busy. My thoughts are constant. I have been going through a situation over the last several weeks to where my thoughts have been super focused in one area, and one direction. I have been trying to interpret things. Trying to figure things out, work things out within my mind in this specific area. Random things, random words, random thoughts, random phrases and random quotes present themselves to me in my mind, often. I don’t know what it is, but for me, words are beautiful, words are powerful, words have significant meaning, and words play a significant role within my life. Words, phrases, etc. help me to stay focused on living the life I desire to live. This morning, the phrase, “Serve and love with no expectation,” came to me. As I have been wrestling with constant thoughts over this specific situation/area that I previously made reference to, as I have been trying to figure this situation out through my thoughts, pondering, analyzing, reflecting, and interpreting, I have come to the realization, or probably more accurately stated, have been reminded, of the fact that I have NO control over someone else. I CANNOT control someone else’s life. But, once again, I CAN control my life! I CAN control how I serve and how I love those around me! We must serve and love with no expectation. Too often we serve and love in order to receive something in return. We do certain things in life, so that we get certain things back. We live life too often in expectation, that if we live a certain way, if we perform certain tasks/duties, if we jump through certain hoops, then we will get specific results. We live expecting. We live to receive back. True service, genuine love, does not expect anything in return. You serve because you want others to be blessed. You love because you want others to be blessed. Serving and loving in order to get something in return, is again, not true service, nor genuine love. These are simply selfish actions to fill some void or emptiness within our life. We must serve. We must love. We must serve one another. We must love one another. With no expectation. With no strings attached. With no expectancy of anything in return. We serve to serve. We love to love. In order to build others up, to bless others. In order to be the men and women, God created us to be, for His glory. Serve boldly today. Love boldly today. Live boldly today. It’s not about you, it’s about others, ALWAYS.

The Inner Struggle

I struggle. I struggle a lot. I struggle everyday. It is an inner struggle. An inner battle. I know you struggle. I know you struggle a lot. I know you struggle everyday. The inner struggle. The inner battle. No one is exempt from the struggle.

I have nothing to hide. I know who I am. I know what I am. I know my passion. My purpose. I know why I am alive today. I know my strengths. I know my weakness’. I know where I need to improve. I know my shortcomings. I know my failures. I know where I have missed the mark. I know that I and you, are imperfect, works of art in progress. Knowing all of this, allows me to know, you need to hear what I am saying. WE ALL STRUGGLE. WE ARE ALL GOING THROUGH AN INNER STRUGGLE TODAY. Each one of us have thousands of thoughts racing through our minds. Each day. Every day. Positive, negative, and indifferent thoughts. They attack us constantly. The thoughts are relentless. All of us struggle on some level controlling our thoughts. The most confident individuals on earth, struggle controlling their thoughts. The wealthiest individuals on earth, struggle controlling their thoughts. The greatest athletes in the world, struggle controlling their thoughts. All of us have insecurities. All of us have had life experiences that have caused us some kind of trauma. All of us have been embarrassed. Made fun of. Laughed at. At times, ridiculed. All of us struggle on some level with wondering what others think about us. All of us struggle on some level with comparing ourselves to others. All of us have jealousies. All of us have annoyances. All of us have prejudices. All of us have body image issues. Some of us have eating disorders. Some of us have severe addictions. All of us have, a lot of issues. With all of our issues, come thousands and thousands of thoughts. Thoughts that can control us. Thoughts that can create fear, anxiety, nervousness, and a host of other debilitating factors. Thoughts are powerful. Thoughts dictate our perception and reality. Our perception and reality of our surroundings, as well as ourselves. Thoughts create an inner struggle. The inner battle. Thoughts become reality. As a man or woman thinks, so they become. As a man or woman thinks, so those around them become.

I want you to know, wherever you are today in your life journey, whatever you are struggling with in this moment, whatever internal battle you are fighting in this moment, as you read this, please hear me, please understand, please grasp, please accept the fact, that you are beautiful. You are beautiful. You are beautiful. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. You are in progress. An artwork, a masterful, beautiful piece of art, in progress. You have gifts. You have talents. You have abilities. You have capabilities. You have opportunities that you have been given to you. You have a Creator that created you to love and to be loved. The struggle is intense. I know. The battle can be overwhelming. I know. The fears, the anxieties, the yearnings for things to be different can be nearly unbearable at times. I know. I’ve been there. I am there. I will continue to be here, in the struggle, in the battle, just as you are. We struggle together. We battle together. Your struggles may be different from mine, your battles may look different then mine, but you struggle, I struggle, we all struggle, we all battle from within. Lift up your eyes. Look around. See the beauty. The beauty within the struggle. The beauty within the battle. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU WILL OVERCOME.

Ashley DePaulis: Sustainable Health Practitioner and Creator of The Inner Athlete

Ashley is a sustainable health practitioner.  She also is the creator of The Inner Athlete.  Ashley and I have an awesome conversation covering a variety of topics.  We really dig deep into Ashley’s story, which includes several life-changing vehicular accidents, in which one involved being hit by a drunk driver.  Ashley opens up about her challenges with PTSD and how this became an impetus for her to begin focusing on the inner person, or inner athlete.  We also talk about Ashley’s childhood experience of being an only child, body energy, the importance of knowing who you are, alone time, and much more!  Ashley is a strong, energetic, lively, and beautiful soul!  You will thoroughly enjoy our conversation and Ashley’s vulnerability with her story.

Ashley’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/the.inner.athlete/

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/ashley.depaulis?epa=SEARCH_BOX

127 Fitness Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/127fitness/

P.S. I Love You

I want to share life. I want to share life with you. I enjoy my alone time. I enjoy my solitude. I enjoy being free to do what I want. But I am beyond ready to give up that freedom. It’s not about me. It’s not about what I want, my alone time, my solitude, my freedom. It’s about serving another. Someone else. It’s about becoming one. Walking, living, in unity. It’s about sharing my life with you. You sharing your life with me. It’s not about my adventure, it’s about “our” adventure. Together, we are free. Together, we are strong. Together, we are unified. Together, we will struggle. Together, we will disagree. Together, we will fall. But, together, we will learn. Together, we will grow. Together, we will mature. Together, we become better. More loving. More caring. Kinder. Tougher. More humble. More patient. More resilient. Together, we are complete. Two cords are not easily broken. I am yours. You are mine. You are beautiful. You are intelligent. You are persistent. You are passionate. To me, for me, you are perfect. Together, we will explore, experience, wander, wonder, and dream. Together, our lives will shine. Thank you for being you. Thank you for being bold. I can’t wait for our first date. Our first conversation. Our first walk hand in hand under the star studded sky. Our first embrace. Our first kiss. Together. Until death do us part. I can’t wait. But I will. See you soon.

P.S.

I love you

Valentines Day

Not having a significant other on Valentine’s Day sucks.  The older I get, the more it sucks.  I am not stating this to get attention.  I am not stating this to get sympathy.  I am stating this because I know there are a lot of people out there who can relate.  I am always happy for others who are happy.  When I have the opportunity to see people who are loving life, it puts a smile on my face.  When I see couples holding hands, showing each other affection, my heart smiles.  But the reality for me, and I know the reality for a lot of others out there, is the fact that life can be very lonely.  Even when we are surrounded by others, even when we have deep, connected fellowship with other humans, such as friends, family, co-workers etc., the truth is, there is nothing that can replace the fulfillment, love, joy, and security of a significant other.  There is nothing more beautiful then loving and being loved, deeply, intimately, and securely by a significant other.  If you find yourself alone today in the midst of those you are surrounded by, if you find yourself yearning for the beauty of a life shared with a significant other, if you find yourself frustrated today, let me encourage you with this…….Life unfolds as life unfolds.  Use this season of life you are in right now to refine yourself, improve yourself, and prepare yourself for the time when your significant other appears.  Be the best version of yourself today, tomorrow, and in all the days to come.  Continue to be a leader.  An example.  Someone to follow.  Continue to serve.  Continue to learn.  Continue to love.  Continue to be someone that someone else would want to be with.  No matter what you are feeling today, no matter how overwhelming your emotions may be today, today is a gift, today is an opportunity, and today is beautiful.  Open your heart, and allow your light to shine.